✦Moving · 11 recordsMove in together

Moving in together fails on the unglamorous things: who pays what when incomes differ, whose furniture goes, and how much time alone each person needs. All three are much easier to discuss in advance than to discover in month two.

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Goal

Moved in, with the awkward things already agreed Month 3

Money, space and rules settled before the boxes.

Agree the awkward things Week 4

Much easier before than in month two.

  • Decide how bills are split, and whyDo firstDay 10
  • Talk about time alone and what tidy meansDo firstWeek 3
  • Decide whose furniture goes, room by roomDo firstWeek 4

The move itself Month 3

Two homes into one, measured first.

  • Measure the new place and plan what fitsDo firstWeek 6
  • Sell or give away the duplicates before movingWeek 8
  • MoveMonth 2

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  • Ten minutes on anything annoyingweekly
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Space, not money

Money is the conversation people brace for. How much time alone each person needs, and what tidy means, are the ones nobody mentions and the ones the first two months actually turn on.\n\nMeasure before deciding whose sofa goes. Two of everything arriving at a flat with room for one is entirely avoidable on paper.

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Move in together, answered.

Deliberately, and in a way that survives different incomes — equal shares and proportional shares are both defensible, and the wrong one is whichever was never actually discussed. It is the first task here for that reason.
Space and mess, not money. How much time alone each person needs, and what tidy means, are rarely mentioned in advance and are what the first two months actually turn on.
Decide before the move, room by room, with the new place measured. Two of everything arriving at a flat with room for one is how the first weekend goes badly, and it is entirely avoidable on paper.
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